10/24/2025
THE REALITY OF BEING A SAHM AND AN AT HOME HAIR BRAIDER.
I know before having another child, my home was pretty peaceful, and for the most part, it still is, but with this feisty little 3yr old and a 9yr old that acts like he lives off sugar, alone, I run into a lot of tantrums and noise WHILE i'm doing hair.
If I can be honest, it's embarrassing for me because 1. What y'all doing all that for? And 2. I have to constantly jump between being a mom and being a professional in real time at the same time. Itβs double work, and I hate doing double work. I know her crying probably irritates you cuz it 100% irritates the hell outta of me. I know me stopping almost every hour to get her straight or to tell my kids to chill out from making so much noise, may get under your skin, cuz it gets under mine. I don't like stopping if I really dont have to, but sometimes it'sa must. And in that, I appreciate you for practicing patience with me as I'm doing my best to be patient with them and regulate my thoughts and mood. I may look calm on the outside, but deep down, it's a real war. Im always struggling not to cry behind you. Or yell so loud that I scare everybody.
Cuz, to be honest (again) Both my kids do too much (I get overstimulated fast). And sometimes, it's enough to make a person not ever want to come back. Believe me, I understand if you don't. If I were in your shoes, I probably wouldn't. π€ But to the ones who keep returning regardless of the mini chaos I've inherited while trying to make a few extra bucks for my family, I APPRECIATE YOU to no end. Things are different, difficult, and demanding now, and in this season (while they are still young, wild, and free with some discipline, of course) I'm also trying to practice having grace towards myself when those difficult moments arise. They are children, after all. So thank you for seeing and understanding that, too.
This is the reality of being a stay at home mom who does hair out of her home. And quite possibly, maybe this is what God wants me to learn through it--patience and grace and compassion for myself--things I never really practiced on ME before. It's all a learning curve.
Anyway, this is really just a quiet morning reflection I'm having after the last 2 clients I had this week. I'm grateful for their understanding in the midst of the mayhem. It's not always bad, but when it is, it weighs heavy on me more than people know.
Nevertheless, if you like a lil side of brattyness and bravery in your braids, come on over. You gon laugh, but you might need some earplugs too. π€π