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🏳️‍🌈🏺2-Gay in History⚖️🏳️‍🌈The Current Court — Where We StandIn June 2015 the Obergefell decision made marriage equality...
06/23/2026

🏳️‍🌈🏺2-Gay in History⚖️🏳️‍🌈

The Current Court — Where We Stand

In June 2015 the Obergefell decision made marriage equality the law of the nation, but Kentucky County Clerk Kim Davis refused to issue marriage licenses on religious grounds. It was a stunt but one that won her notoriety.

This series has tried to highlight that the arc bends both ways and that progress isn’t inevitable. Every win in these pages was followed by someone working to undo it. So where are we now?

Last year, Kim Davis asked the Supreme Court to overturn Obergefell outright. Her petition borrowed the exact language used to overturn Roe: the precedent was “egregiously wrong,” substantive due process a “legal fiction.” The Court declined to hear it because Davis’s case was a poor vehicle.

But it will find. In 2025, at least nine states introduced measures challenging marriage equality. The Southern Baptist Convention named overturning Obergefell a priority. Justices Thomas and Alito have both said openly that the case should be reconsidered

Meanwhile, the fight has moved. Last term, in Mahmoud v. Taylor parents gained the right to opt their children out of LGBTQ lesson plans and in Skrmetti, the Court upheld a state ban on gender-affirming care for minors. This term it struck down Colorado’s ban on conversion therapy. Next fall they will hear St Mary’s v. Roy which seeks to demand public funding for religious schools that discriminate against q***r parents and kids. And as I write this, two cases on transgender students in school sports are days away from a decision (Little v. Hecox & West Virginia v. B.P.J.)

The landmark precedents still stand but things aren’t going well, using religious liberty and free speech to carve out who the law no longer has to protect.

But there is a safety limit. The Respect for Marriage Act (2022) means even if Obergefell fell, existing marriages would still be recognized nationwide. We are not where we were in 1986, we won’t lose it all just yet. But just like Roe, a country split in two may be near.

Progress was never a straight line, and every time we get complacent, we risk the rug getting pulled out.

More on our website ThirstysRVA.com.

🏳️‍🌈🥵This Weekend is going to be HOT🥵👨‍✈️It’s Leather Night:Colors Party—Hanky Code this Saturday, but our already limit...
06/19/2026

🏳️‍🌈🥵This Weekend is going to be HOT🥵👨‍✈️

It’s Leather Night:Colors Party—Hanky Code this Saturday, but our already limited A/C is on the fritz. So it will be hotter than usual this weekend, and not just because it’s Leather Night, so dress accordingly and be prepared to sweat to DJ Lucky from NBphobic’s music at 9.

Don’t forget about the extra parking on Forest Hill or the Crossroads lot.

We are doing what we can to get it fixed asap.

🏳️‍🌈🗓️ What the gay is going on this week? 👨‍✈️🩸Thirsty’s 3rd Week of June 2026: Leather Night🎵 Tue: BYOV DJ Bring Your ...
06/16/2026

🏳️‍🌈🗓️ What the gay is going on this week? 👨‍✈️🩸

Thirsty’s 3rd Week of June 2026: Leather Night

🎵 Tue: BYOV DJ Bring Your Own Vinyl + Board Games in the lounge at 6:30

🎭 Wed: Deception! Hidden role games in the lounge at 6pm sharp
💅🏾 Wed: Hot Girl Drag 9:30 — Amber St Lexington + YouNeek & Alaya!

🍿 Thu: Double Feature Night!
Disclosure (2020) 7:30 — Laverne Cox’s landmark doc on trans representation in media
🎬 Total Eclipse (1995) in the lounge — Leo DiCaprio in a film about poets Rimbaud & Verlaine

🎤 Fri: Karaoke with Jason at 7pm

👨‍✈️Sat: Leather Night: Colors Party — Hanky Code at 7, and special guest DJ Lucky at 9pm

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🌈 THE GAY NEWS 🌈

1️⃣ 🏥 DOJ Seizes Trans Kids’ Medical Records — Mount Sinai called parents this week to say their children’s private health records would be handed over to the feds.

2️⃣ 🏥 Some Hospitals Are Fighting Back — A federal judge blocked Boston Children’s Hospital’s subpoena, ruling the DOJ demand was “motivated only by bad faith” and designed to shut down gender-affirming care entirely. A judge blocked immediate release and set an emergency hearing for June 22.

3️⃣ 📉 Gallup: Only 5% of Republicans now say gender affirming care is morally acceptable — down from 22% five years ago.

4️⃣🏳️‍🌈 Small Win: The Trump administration agreed to return the Pride flag to the Stonewall National Monument after removing it early this year.

5️⃣ 🌍 Africa Update — Nations across the Sahara are escalating anti-LGBTQ+ repression. Mali, Burkina Faso, Niger and Ghana have all passed or advanced criminalization laws this year.

6️⃣ 🇵🇱 Poland quietly recognized its first same-s*x marriage from another EU country — a small but meaningful crack in one of the EU most anti-gay governments.

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🏳️‍🌈🏺2-Gay in History⚖️🏳️‍🌈United States v. Windsor (2013) & 303 Creative v. Elenis (2023)Edie Windsor and Thea Spyer we...
06/16/2026

🏳️‍🌈🏺2-Gay in History⚖️🏳️‍🌈

United States v. Windsor (2013) & 303 Creative v. Elenis (2023)

Edie Windsor and Thea Spyer were together for 40 years, Thea died in 2009, Edie inherited everything — as any spouse would. But under the Defense of Marriage Act, the federal government didn’t recognize their Canadian marriage even though New York did. The IRS sent Edie a $363,000 estate tax bill. She paid it, and then sued the government.

By 2013, same-s*x couples were married in a growing number of states but invisible to the federal government — locked out of over a thousand federal statutes that turn on marital status. The Supreme Court ruled 5-4 in Windsor’s favor. Justice Kennedy wrote that DOMA’s effect was to “humiliate” same-s*x couples and their children. The federal government had to recognize all those legally married in their state.

Two years later, Obergefell would make marriage equality national. But the carveouts were already coming.

In 2018, the well funded christian right group “The Allaince Defending Freedom” brought the Masterpiece Cakeshop case—a baker refused to make a wedding cake for a same-s*x couple — which ended on procedural grounds without settling the larger question.

The ADF then manufactured another case, 303 Creative v. Elenis. Colorado web designer Lorie Smith sued preemptively, before ever turning away a same-s*x client, arguing Colorado’s anti-discrimination law would violate her First Amendment right not to create expressive content that conflicted with her religious beliefs.

Her legal team cited a request from a man named “Stewart” as proof of imminent threat. When a reporter finally tracked Stewart down, he was straight, married, and had never contacted 303 Creative—it was a total fabrication to strengthen their case.

It didn’t matter to the Court, which ruled 6-3 in her favor. Gorsuch wrote that compelling her to make a creative product was compelled speech. Sotomayor dissented: for the first time, a business open to the public had a constitutional right to turn away a protected class.

There is a reason why the Masterpiece case was decided differently than the 303 case— Trump and Mitch McConnell stole 2 seats on the Supreme Court

Even when the state eventually recognizes your rights, it doesn’t mean you’re safe from legal discrimination.

More on ThirstysRVA.com

🏳️‍🌈🗓️ What the gay is going on this week? 🗓️🏳️‍🌈2nd Week of June 2026📚 Wed: Q***r Horizons Book Club 6:30 — Last Night ...
06/10/2026

🏳️‍🌈🗓️ What the gay is going on this week? 🗓️🏳️‍🌈

2nd Week of June 2026

📚 Wed: Q***r Horizons Book Club 6:30 — Last Night at the Telegraph Club

💅🏾 Wed: Hot Girl Drag 9:30 — Amber St Lexington + Natalia & Nova!

🍿 Thu: Q***r Fan Cinema 7:30 — The Celluloid Closet (1995) + free popcorn! A landmark doc tracing a century of Hollywood hiding q***r characters on screen.
✍️ Thu: Rainbow Carnage Poetry 8:30 — Pride in Poetry Workshop

🎤 every Fri: Karaoke with Jason at 7

🎲 Sat: Shadowdark D&D one-shots 4:30 — limited seats!
🏳️‍⚧️ Sat: Trans Joy 9pm with NBphobic DJs BunnyBoyGirl & DJ TwinkDeath 9

🤼Sun: Singlet Sunday in the lounge 5-7pm, with plenty on new ones to borrow

🎲 🎶Every Tue: is BYO-Vinyl DJ and Board Game Night at 6

Next Leather Night 6/20 is Colors Hanky Code Pride Party!

🐻 Bear Book Club will discuss Christodora by Tim Murphy on June 24 @6:30

Save the Date for Pride Beyond the Data a conversation with Richmond City officials July 2nd at 5pm at Thirsty’s

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🌈 THE GAY NEWS 🌈

1️⃣🏳️‍🌈 “Title IX Month” — the Trump DOE again rebranded June to erase Pride Month, they also tried “Family Month”, now using women’s rights language as cover to roll back trans protections.

2️⃣📉 Gallup Poll: Republican support for same-s*x marriage collapsed from 55% to 37% in four years. Their acceptance of gay relationships is back to 2010 levels. Democrat support held steady.

3️⃣💸 Corporate Pride Pullback — LGBTQ corporate participation in Pride events is down 65% this year. Major parades are losing $200K–$350K each in sponsorships

4️⃣🎗️ HIV Military Ban Challenged — A federal appeals court revived a case that could end the military’s blanket ban on people living with HIV serving in uniform.

5️⃣🤦 Aaron Schock Watch — The disgraced gay ex-GOP congressman reportedly allied with anti-LGBTQ Lara Loomer to undermine Rubio, all while chasing a gold mine deal with Venezuela. He never changes.

6️⃣✊ NYC Pride Theme: “For All of Us” — drawn from Marsha P. Johnson: “There is no pride for some of us without liberation for all of us.”

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🏳️‍🌈🏺2-Gay in History⚖️🏳️‍🌈Romer v. Evans (1996) & Boy Scouts of America v. Dale (2000)In 1992 at the height of the AIDS...
06/09/2026

🏳️‍🌈🏺2-Gay in History⚖️🏳️‍🌈

Romer v. Evans (1996) & Boy Scouts of America v. Dale (2000)

In 1992 at the height of the AIDS Epidemic with over 100 deaths a day, Colorado voters passed ballot Amendment 2 — not just refusing to extend protections to gay people, but invalidating ones they already had. Denver, Boulder, and Aspen had each passed local anti-discrimination ordinances until a single statewide vote erased them all. Rights people already lived under in liberal areas, gone overnight.

It was part of a coordinated national strategy using direct democracy against gay people — framed as stopping “special rights.” Colorado was the first test case that worked.

However the test wasn’t over and in 1996 the Supreme Court struck down the Colorado Amendment down 6-3. Justice Kennedy wrote that it “raises the inevitable inference that the disadvantage imposed is born of animosity” toward gay people. A bare desire to harm a politically unpopular group cannot be a legitimate government interest. Colorado had not regulated gay lives — it had targeted them.

It felt like a major victory, that the tide was turning but things don’t always move forward.

Four years later, 19yo James Dale — Eagle Scout, and assistant scoutmaster — was banned after the Boy Scouts saw a college newspaper quote identifying him as gay. He sued under New Jersey’s anti-discrimination law. The Supremes ruled 5-4 against him. Private organizations have a First Amendment right to exclude members whose presence conflicts with their message. The state couldn’t compel them to include him.

The government cannot target you, but a private organization can exclude you, and the courts may protect their right to do so. Boy Scouts did eventually begin allowing openly gay scouts and scoutmasters by 2015.

Progress has never moved in a straight line, the pendulum can swing back quickly.

More next week and on our website ThirstysRVA.com.

🏳️‍🌈🐶Pup Night Parade🐶🏳️‍🌈Saturday the 6th of June, meet RIC-PPAH at Thirsty’s Lounge at 7pm for a Pup Parade through Fo...
06/06/2026

🏳️‍🌈🐶Pup Night Parade🐶🏳️‍🌈

Saturday the 6th of June, meet RIC-PPAH at Thirsty’s Lounge at 7pm for a Pup Parade through Forest Hill Park. Bring snacks or things to share for a Pup Potluck Picnic

At 9pm special guest DJ BearBonez will get the party started back at Thirsty’s.

Just a reminder there is never any cover or cost for our events at Thirsty’s.

This week🏳️‍🌈🗓️What the gay is going on this week?🗓️🏳️‍🌈First week of June 2026⚔️ Wednesday is TTRPG Night at 6pm in the...
06/03/2026

This week

🏳️‍🌈🗓️What the gay is going on this week?🗓️🏳️‍🌈
First week of June 2026

⚔️ Wednesday is TTRPG Night at 6pm in the lounge! Tonight we try Mörk Borg!

💅🏾 Wednesday’s are Hot Girl Drag with Amber St Lexington!

🍿 Thursday is Q***r Fan Cinema: Pride Firsts this week Prayers for Bobby (2009) Showtime is 7:30 with free popcorn before the show.

🎲 Thursday the lounge is NA but open all night for Board Games, Video Games, and Billiards. Just leave the alcohol on the bar side.

🎤 Friday is always Kareoke with Jason at 7pm

🐶 Saturday is Pup Night!! At 7 we will do a Pup Parade through Forest Hill Park! With RIC-PPAH!! Meet in the lounge and bring snacks for a Pup Picnic, if you can!

🧷 Sunday is ABDL 5-8! Ask your Bartender.

And now for a new segment. Every week I’ll pull together the gay news of the week and summarize what the gay is going on!

1. Trans Military Ban — Court Win, Hegseth Vows Appeal
A federal appeals court ruled 2-1 that the Trump administration’s transgender military ban is likely unconstitutional and “appears to be driven by the bare desire to harm a politically unpopular group.” The ruling would protect current service members named in the lawsuit but won’t allow new trans recruits to join openly, but the court put the decision on hold pending further review so trans service members are still not allowed to serve. Hegseth immediately promised to appeal to the Supreme Court. 🔫🏳️‍⚧️

2. Trans Women in Federal Prisons — Injunction Holds
A D.C. federal judge again blocked the Trump administration from transferring transgender women in federal custody to men’s prisons, extending emergency protections but only until they can appeal it up the courts. ⛓️ 🏳️‍⚧️

3. Uganda and Mali—
Mali has just joined four other African nations in banning homos*xuality, with prison sentences and even the death penalty is some cases. Uganda’s Supreme Court just deferred action on a challenge to the Constitutional Court’s 2024 ruling upholding the Anti-Homos*xuality Act. This is a very dangerous trend for African q***r people. 🇲🇱 🇺🇬

4. Barney Frank Dies at 86 — With Controversy
Gay right pioneer Barney Frank, the first openly gay member of Congress and a champion of gay equality over three decades, died on May 21. His death was complicated by a final round of interviews from hospice in which he urged Democrats to rethink their approach to the trans rights debates, particularly around sports. 😡 🪦

5. HUD starts to the Repeal Equal Access Rule
The Department of Housing and Urban Development announced it began the process to repeal the HUD Equal Access Rule , which had required federally funded shelters to serve people regardless of gender identity — a direct threat to homeless LGBTQ+ people. 🏠

6. Trans Girl Dies After School Anti-Trans Policy Fight
A Idaho trans girl reportedly unalived herself after months of fighting her school’s anti-trans bathroom policy — the MAGA Attorney General claimed that means she dropped her lawsuit against the school by default. 🖤 🏳️‍⚧️

7. Pride Is A Protest: organizers for LA, Chicago, DC, New York, and San Francisco have all announced that the theme this year for pride will be protesting the Trump‘s administration rollback of trans rights! ✊

8. Iceland Tops Trans-Friendly Europe Rankings (Global)
Iceland ranked first in the 2026 map of most q***r-friendly countries in world, again. 🇮🇸

9. Hungary approved Budapest Pride
The police have issued a permit for Budapest Pride this year, after Orban banned it for the last few and a huge turn out was lead by the Mayor last year for which he was jailed. 🇭🇺

🏳️‍🌈🏺2-Gay in History ⚖️🏳️‍🌈Bowers v. Hardwick (1986) & Lawrence v. Texas (17 shameful years later)In the early morning ...
06/02/2026

🏳️‍🌈🏺2-Gay in History ⚖️🏳️‍🌈

Bowers v. Hardwick (1986) & Lawrence v. Texas (17 shameful years later)

In the early morning hours of an August day in Atlanta, a police officer arrived at Michael Hardwick’s home to serve a warrant — a minor matter, a public drinking ticket that had resulted in a missed court date. A roommate let him in, and he walked to a bedroom door, opened it, and found Hardwick in bed with another man. He arrested both of them on the spot under Georgia’s so**my statute, a law that carried a penalty of up to twenty years in prison.

The district attorney eventually declined to prosecute. But Michael Hardwick didn’t let it go. Represented by the ACLU, he brought a constitutional challenge — and after four years, his case reached the United States Supreme Court.

By then, much of the Western world had already moved on. France and the Netherlands had effectively decriminalized same-s*x conduct 175 years earlier. Denmark followed in 1933. Sweden in 1944. The United Kingdom was late, decriminalizing in 1967, following the Wolfenden Report. West Germany and Canada both moved in 1969. Even Illinois had quietly decriminalized in 1961. The United States as a whole was way behind the time. By 1986, half the states still had so**my laws on the books — many carrying serious criminal penalties.

The Supreme Court ruled 5-4 against Hardwick. Justice Byron White wrote for the majority, framing the question in the narrowest possible terms: did the Constitution confer a fundamental right to engage in homos*xual so**my? The majority said no.

But it was Chief Justice Warren Burger’s concurrence that revealed the full weight of contempt behind the ruling. Burger wrote separately to make sure no one missed the homophobia. A constitutional right to homos*xual so**my, he wrote, would “cast aside millennia of moral teaching.” He grounded the ruling explicitly in “Judaeo-Christian moral and ethical standards.”— he reached back to 18th century English jurist William Blackstone’s description of homos*xual s*x as “the infamous crime against nature,” calling it worse than r**e, and “a crime not fit to be named.” Burger cited that approvingly in the 80s.

Justice Lewis Powell (of Powell memo infamy) was the fifth vote, he had waffled on the case but ultimately ruled against Hardwick. Then four years later Powell said publicly that his vote in Bowers had probably been a “mistake.” Probably.

Justice Harry Blackmun’s dissent invoked Louis Brandeis, he wrote that the case was really about “the most comprehensive of rights and the right most valued by civilized men” — “the right to be let alone.” The majority had refused to recognize not just a right to homos*xual intimacy, but the fundamental interest all people have in controlling the nature of their intimate lives.

It was a crushing blow to the gay rights movement, seventeen years after stonewall and in the midst of the AIDS crisis; for another seventeen years, Bowers v. Hardwick was the law of the land.

In the late 90s, police in Texas responded to a call about a weapons disturbance, they entered the apartment of John Lawrence and found him and Tyron Garner together. They were arrested under Texas’s Homos*xual Conduct law and held overnight. No weapons, no disturbance, it was a false report by a rejected lover. They just found two men in a bedroom.
It was, almost, the exact same story.

Lawrence and Garner were convicted and fined. They appealed. Their case moved through the courts for four years, and in 2003, it reached the Supreme Court. In the fourth week of June, 2003 the Court finally ruled 6-3 in their favor. Justice Anthony Kennedy wrote the majority opinion: Bowers, he wrote, “was not correct when it was decided, and it is not correct today.” And continued writing:

“Liberty presumes an autonomy of self that includes freedom of thought, belief, expression, and certain intimate conduct. The petitioners are entitled to respect for their private lives. The State cannot demean their existence or control their destiny by making their private s*xual conduct a crime.”

Justice Scalia dissented in a characteristic tantrum, declaring that the majority had “signed on to the so-called homos*xual agenda,” warning the decision called into question laws against same-s*x marriage, bigamy, and obscenity. He was trying to sound an alarm. He was, accidentally, prophetic.

Lawrence v. Texas did not end the legal battles, it was just the start, as this series will show. But it did say: your private life is private, and the state can’t litigate who you love.

It took seventeen years, twice, but the Court finally got there, on the second try.

🏳️‍🌈🏺extra 2-Gay in History: Bible 15🛐🏳️‍🌈This is the closing post of our Bible series — The Bible is more than you’ve b...
05/30/2026

🏳️‍🌈🏺extra 2-Gay in History: Bible 15🛐🏳️‍🌈

This is the closing post of our Bible series —

The Bible is more than you’ve been told, and certainly more than you’ve ever been quoted from a pulpit. Just read the Song of Solomon — the most erotic book in scripture — and watch how the church tied itself in knots trying to spiritualize and suppress it, because inconvenient texts have always made institutions nervous. That instinct to control the text is the same one this series has been tracing all along.

This kind of q***r exploration was something John Boswell famously began decades ago in Christianity, Social Tolerance, and Homos*xuality, and the scholars who followed him have built a substantial body of work.

We’ve drawn on a lot of it here. But we want to be honest: not every argument in this series carries equal weight. The authorship of the Secret Gospel of Mark is genuinely contested. David and Jonathan being more than brothers is suggested by the language but never named by the text. Some readings are mere possibilities. Others — the pais/doulos distinction, the rhetorical trap of Romans 1, the manuscript evidence behind the silencing of women, the interpretation of S***m as violence to strangers— are confirmed by the text itself, and the scholarship is solid.

Then there is all the hypocrisy of ignored passages on polygamy, divorce, dietary restrictions, and slavery, while homos*xuality alone is held up.

We’re not asking you to take any of this as gospel. We’re asking you to sit with the reasonable doubt. Because the burden of proof was never ours. It belonged to the institution that wanted to exclude us from the love of God that Jesus preached — and reading the whole text, it turns out they didn’t have nearly as strong a case as they pretended.

What we can say with confidence is this: q***r people are in the Bible: not as cautionary tales, and not just in the margins. In the covenant with Naomi. In the grief of David. In the faith of the centurion. In the intimacy of the Beloved Disciple. In the promise Isaiah made to the eunuchs, fulfilled in Acts on a desert road. In the very words Jesus chose when he described people who fall outside the binary and said simply: let anyone accept this who can.

The institution spent centuries deciding that what the text said could not mean what it said — because the people it honored could not be holy. Feminist scholars started dismantling that project fifty years ago. Q***r scholars have begun doing the same work ever since. Both projects are the same: reading the whole verses, refusing the interpretations and lies layered over them, and insisting the Bible is large enough to hold the people it always contained.

That work is now showing up in pews and pulpits. The United Church of Christ has ordained LGBTQ pastors since the 70s. In 2003 the Episcopal Church, ordained an out partnered bishop; and along with the Lutherans (ELCA) and the Presbyterian Church USA, all mainline denominations are now fully affirming, even allowing same-s*x marriages to be performed. Just in May 2024, the United Methodist Church — the second largest Protestant denomination in America — voted with 93% approval to lift its ban on LGBTQ ordination and called s*xuality “a sacred gift.”

Christianity is not a monolith. There are communities where you are not just tolerated but celebrated. Where your love is not a problem to be managed but a gift to be blessed. Where a place at the table is waiting for you.

And if institutional faith isn’t for you — for one reason or another — know this: you were always in their story. Before the translations. Before the councils. Before the sermons and the rulebooks and the schisms. The Bible reflects and has space for the full human spectrum.

You were always there. The text of the Bible records it.

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