10/10/2026
This is so true! This is also a huge part of my focus with my moms. I donβt always need them to breastfeed exclusively. We come up with plans that gives these touched out, exhausted moms a break. Itβs ok to take a break, if you arenβt taking care of yourself, you canβt take care of your baby.
I know itβs frowned upon by my peers at times, but if a mom is struggling you better believe we will have a conversation about bottle feeding, skipping one feed at night to sleep, using a paciβ¦. We of course do it safely to maintain supply but we also do it to recharge these mommas.
The cost of breastfeeding that nobody talks about. π€
Breastfeeding is beautiful, but it can also take so much out of a mother.
The physical exhaustion. The sleepless nights. The constant hunger. The leaking, engorgement, sore ni***es, and clogged ducts.
The hormonal changes. The mental load of always being the one who has to feed the baby. The feeling of never truly having your body to yourself.
Itβs loving those quiet nursing moments while also wishing someone else could take over for just one night.
Itβs wanting a break without wanting to stop breastfeeding.
Itβs being grateful you can nourish your baby while sometimes feeling completely depleted yourself.
And letβs not forget the pressure mothers put on themselves to produce enough, eat enough, pump enough, and somehow still be everything to everyone else.
Two things can be true: breastfeeding can be beautiful AND breastfeeding can be hard.
We need to stop romanticizing it so much that mothers feel guilty admitting theyβre struggling.
So if youβre a breastfeeding mama who feels touched out, exhausted, emotional, or just needs a break, youβre not ungrateful. Youβre human.
And if you love a breastfeeding mom, please remember to take care of HER, too. Bring her food, fill her water, take the baby between feeds, and give her a chance to rest.
Because her baby deserves to be nourished, but so does she. π€