07/10/2011
How to pick up girls in bars.....
When your mission is to approach girls, the easiest way is to go to a popular bar. Picking up girls in bars is easy if you know how to approach them the right way. Keep in mind that hot girls get approached by men constantly at bars, so you've got to make an original approach that distinguishes you from all the others. (My book "Mack Tactics" contains an entire c...hapter on approach tactics, and gives you clever & wickedly effective openers to use in virtually any situation.).
So right now, let me share with you some general tips to help you approaching girls in bars, clubs and other nightlife environments:
1. Don't leave home until you're feeling totally confident about your appearance. You certainly don't need to be tall and well-built to attract women, but you absolutely must be clean, well-dressed and most importantly well-groomed. First impressions are important, after all. Wear nice clothes, brush your teeth, comb your hair, etc. Make sure that you wear good cologne and not the cheap kind if you want to pick up girls at bars.
2. From the moment you want into the bar to start picking up girls, you should project confidence. Even if you're shy and nervous, you still need to pretend to be confident. Body language is extremely important; don't slouch, and keep your head held high. Make eye contact with women. Don't only try to interact with the hot girls you want to hook up with; start friendly interactions with other women as you "warm up" and get a feel for the crowd. Also keep in mind that most of the other guys in the bar are just as nervous as you -- if not more so -- when it comes to approaching girls and trying to start a conversation. Those who at least try to fake their confidence will be able to pick up girls at bars better than those who let their nervousness get the best of them.
3. Picking up girls at bars means you might have to approach them. If you're a good-looking guy you may occasionally GET approached by women, but in most cases it's up to you to make the first move. Don't only try to target women who are alone; usually, women go out in groups, and approaching groups of women is not big deal when you've got some solid techniques. Smile, deliver your opener, and then transition into your first topic of conversation (when you use "Mack Tactics," the process should be a seamless flow). If she doesn't seem interested, don't bug her. Don't worry about being turned down. This is an important attitude to take when you're out to pick up girls at bars. If you want to approach a group of girls, treat them all nicely. Even if there's only one you're interested in, you should still be nice to her friends.
4. Next, when you approach a girl and start a conversation your tone of voice -- and the topics you discuss -- should be positive. She should associate you with FUN and POSITIVITY, not negativity or boring/depressing topics (such as talking to her about your exes, breakups, etc. Remember, she didn't spend two hours earlier tonight doing her hair and makeup, and selecting her outfit, so that she could out to a bar and be be bored and depressed. She came here tonight to have fun. If you can provide her with that, she'll want to hang out with you.
5. When your mission is to pick up girls, you can't be overly loud or aggressive (especially towards other guys, even if you view them as "the competition". Go ahead and have fun, but don't be the "spaz" who gets on people's nerves (or even worse, the drunk guy who can't handle his alcohol). I know that for a lot of guys, imbibing some "liquid courage" helps them to loosen up and feel more comfortable when picking up women. But there is often a fine line between "pleasantly buzzed" and "hammered," and women don't feel comfortable being hit on by guys who seem to be drunk and possibly out of control.
6. Pay careful attention to the people around you, and the social interactions of others. Make it a habit to watch how girls behave in bars -- when they're socializing with their friends, and when they get approached by random men. In order to pick up girls at bars, you should observe them for a few minutes before approaching them. If you can hear what she's talking about (with her friends, or with the guy who approached her), you may hear something that you can bring up during your own conversation with her. It's better to plan your moves carefully before approaching a woman than to go right up to her as soon as you see her. Becoming a master at picking up girls requires patience, discipline, and most of all PRACTICE.
