Kozy Korner

02/11/2026

The Saint Has The Past, We Have The Present, And The Sinner Has The Future

An All Saints' Day reflection on the man I am, the man I have been, and the man I am still becoming. Yesterday, as I sat in church during the All Saints' Day Mass, listening to the priest deliver his sermon, he made a statement that has been sitting with me ever since. "The saint has the past, we have the present, and the sinner has the future."...

16/10/2026

When The Limpopo Became A Mirror.

Sometimes, you travel for one reason and find yourself confronting things you weren't even looking for. Over the last couple of weeks, I have found myself in a rather unfamiliar space. My emotions have been all over the place, my thoughts have been taking unexpected detours, and there are days when I genuinely struggle to explain even to myself what is happening....

Sometimes, you travel for one reason and find yourself confronting things you weren’t even looking for. Over the last couple of weeks, I have found myself in a rather unfamiliar space. My emo…

09/10/2026

The Bonsai Has Been Teaching Me About Healing.

Sometimes losing leaves is not dying. Sometimes it is learning how to grow again. There are some things in life that come with instructions. When you are physically unwell, there is usually a plan. See the doctor. Get tested. Take the medication. Eat better. Rest. Exercise. Follow up. But what happens when what needs healing cannot be seen? What prescription do you take for a broken relationship, a tired heart, a troubled mind, a friendship that disappeared, or the ache of being away from your children?...

Sometimes losing leaves is not dying. Sometimes it is learning how to grow again. There are some things in life that come with instructions. When you are physically unwell, there is usually a plan.…

02/10/2026

When Fatherhood Becomes A Negotiation.

A father, a son, a new partner and the long road of learning when to fight, when to bend and when simply to remain. I have always jokingly confessed that I am a two-star general. Not in the artillery department, but in another department where the medals are awarded rather differently. I throw that line around with a little laughter because life has taught me that if you cannot laugh at yourself occasionally, adulthood will happily do it for you....

25/09/2026

I Did My Part. The Rest Is Above My Pay Grade.

What adversity, loss and healing taught me about letting go. People who know me sometimes wonder how I remain such a happy soul, seemingly unbothered by people, situations and the little dramas that life likes to serve with a side of confusion. These days, I mostly just do what makes me happy. I enjoy my quiet time indoors, read books, cook a little, host friends when the mood takes me, listen to my music, talk to my plants as though they are paying rent, and occasionally step out and enjoy good company....

What adversity, loss and healing taught me about letting go. People who know me sometimes wonder how I remain such a happy soul, seemingly unbothered by people, situations and the little dramas tha…

18/09/2026

When Loneliness Moves Into The House.

How people can share a home, a bed, a friendship and still feel miles apart. There is a kind of loneliness that people rarely talk about. It is not the loneliness of living alone, eating by yourself, or coming home to an empty house. It is the loneliness of being with someone and still feeling alone. You can be married, sleep beside your spouse, share bills, raise children, attend family gatherings, and even sit together watching television yet feel as though you are carrying the weight of life by yourself....

How people can share a home, a bed, a friendship and still feel miles apart. There is a kind of loneliness that people rarely talk about. It is not the loneliness of living alone, eating by yoursel…

16/09/2026

Tea With Alexander.

You Don't Always Have to Fix It It's Wednesday again, and as I sit with my tea, I find myself thinking about something we often get wrong about people we love we think we must have the answer before we can offer our presence. Sometimes you don't. There are moments when a man is carrying something heavy and what he needs isn't another solution, another lecture or someone telling him how he should have handled it....

11/09/2026

WHEN MEN CLOSE THEIR LEAVES..

What a Prayer Plant taught me about men, marriage and the things we don't say. There is a plant in my house that has been talking to me lately, The Prayer Plant. During the day, its leaves open towards the light; as darkness falls, they fold upwards and close, only to open again when morning comes. Watching it reminds me of how we Catholics open our hands in surrender during the Lord’s Prayer and bring them together at…...

What a Prayer Plant taught me about men, marriage and the things we don’t say. There is a plant in my house that has been talking to me lately, The Prayer Plant. During the day, its leaves op…

09/09/2026

Tea with Alexander.

Desire Only the Good of Others It's Wednesday again, and as I sit with my tea, I find myself thinking about something rather simple: what does it really mean to want good things for other people? It is easy to say, “I wish you well.” It is much harder to live it. To genuinely desire the good of another person means celebrating their wins without quietly wondering why it wasn't you....

Desire Only the Good of Others It’s Wednesday again, and as I sit with my tea, I find myself thinking about something rather simple: what does it really mean to want good things for other peo…

04/09/2026

September, The Month That Keeps Knocking.

Some chapters don't end because we are ready. They end because life decides it is time to turn the page. September seems to have developed a personality of its own. Every year, around this time, life somehow looks at me and says, “Alexander, sit down. We need to talk.” And somehow, it always comes with a plot twist. Exactly three years ago this week, I found myself at an emotional edge....

Some chapters don’t end because we are ready. They end because life decides it is time to turn the page. September seems to have developed a personality of its own. Every year, around this ti…