Love Evolution Coach

04/05/2024

Dear Reader,

This letter is for those with Anxious Attachment. My heart deeply empathizes with the feeling of having little control over anxiousness when it comes to relationships. I have a theory of my own: Could your anxiousness and insecurities be subtle antennas of wisdom?

Hear me out. I know this might sound hard to believe, but what if your insecurities were actually your superpower?

Many people with anxious attachment develop insecurities due to childhood trauma or a rupture in bonding with their parents during infancy. These circumstances can lead to uncertainty about love and a fear of rejection or abandonment in relationships. Having an anxious attachment style isn't something to "fix"; it's something to learn to work in your favor.

Here are a few ways anxious attachment manifests in relationships: tracking your partner's actions, such as their cell phone use, social media interactions, or social life. Your insecurities might manifest as constantly seeking validation from your partner regarding their feelings towards you. You might be easily triggered by a partner who doesn't consistently show interest or initiate intimacy. Often, your anxiousness might lead you to go against your natural instincts, trying to be the "cool" person who goes with the flow rather than expressing your needs to feel safe, which results in feeling constantly let down.

Here's the truth: all the subtle actions encouraged by anxious attachment could instead be clues helping you clarify what you need from a relationship.

I've worked with women with an anxious attachment style for years, and the tool that has consistently supported them in attracting and maintaining healthy relationships is creating their standards for a relationship. It's not about "changing" or "fixing" someone else; it's about getting clear on what is a better match for you. If your insecurity stems from needing to check someone's phone or social media use, then you deserve a partner who is transparent and doesn't engage in social media interactions with other women. This isn't about changing another person; it's about filtering through potential partners who don't meet the standards that make you feel safe in a relationship.

And this is absolutely possible. I have a client who got engaged this year and had the experience of her partner handing her his phone, saying, "I have no secrets; here you go." This man doesn't trigger her anxiety but does everything he can to make her feel safe. If you're ready to attract the type of love that makes you feel safe and secure in a relationship, download The Man Menu today.

During this 1-hour e-course, you will learn how to shift your perspective on attracting the wrong person for you, create your standards, and get clear on what you bring to a relationship. (Also, 33% off with discount code FIRST100).

Until then, continue to follow my social because my next letter is to men and then anyone healing from heartbreak!

With kindness,
Erica

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01/10/2024

I have a new idea brewing and wanted to see who is on my friend list and looking for love. If you are a woman and see this post and are looking for a LTR ❤️ this post if you are a man looking for LTR 👍🏽 this post. Bonus put what you are looking for in the comments!

09/22/2023

There is a lot of talk about attachment styles and feminine and masculine polarities and they effect your relationships.

But the number #1 factor on attracting or being in a healthy relationship is by feeling safe in your body to fully express who you are and what you need.

One way I have helped my clients feel this way is through breathwork.

On 10/01, I am offering a breathwork work course designed to help woman feel safe in their bodies and BOUNDLESS in their lives. When we feel free, we are able to tap into our full expression and our feminine power effortlessly!

If you live in Austin, I hope you can join me. ❤️

Link in comments.

12/24/2022

Happy Holidays Fam 🎅

I hope that everyone is enjoying their last week of 2022 and taking advantage of the downtime of the holidays.

I know for some people, this season can feel hard or emotional. My invitation is to not judge any emotions you are feeling this season…sadness, grief, joy, love.

Take the time to integrate the winter solstice. The winter is a time for reflection, wisdom, death and letting go. The winter is an opportunity to reset and recharge, to be cozy, to connect to your inner child and your inner child’s wisdom.

This season has many more possibilities than just having a Merry Christmas! 🎁

It’s an opportunity to be soft and gentle with yourself.

❤️‍🔥
E

06/28/2022

GUEST SPEAKER ALERT! will be guest speaking in this round of The Relationship Roadmap.

I am opening it up to any one who would like support around ending a relationship (breakups), living and loving being single while holding space for healthy love and the art of unsettling.

A little about Master Practitioner of Neuro Linguistic Programming and Certified Life and Emotional Intelligence Coach with an emphasis in singles, helps people all around the world use their old flame to light their new fire. Through humor, knowledge, and experience, she guides her clients through uncovering blocks and ineffective life patterns that have been holding them back, followed by introducing massive action in order to activate major, desired life changes. Coming soon, is her book, "Sometimes It Takes a Breakup" - shares her story of how heartbreaks of all kinds lead her to her heart’s purpose, along with actionable steps for you to discover how to beneficially utilize yours. Keep your eye out for her fun and raw podcast on life, "Let's Get Unzipped." This fiery ball of energy will not stop pursuing her efforts to make this world a better place and to help make other’s lives healthier and happier!

DM “Single” for the link to the invite. I am closing the invite list on 6/30!

06/19/2022

Happy father’s day ! My dad is the kind of man who always took care of us and provided for us, he loved us and we all go to him for advice. But the truth is I admire this man’s integrity. He is his word. Also, loves his family unconditionally. Blessed to have the greatest man as my dad.

05/31/2022

Dear Stunning Heart Woman,

❤️

I love you. I woke up thinking about your luscious lips. The lips that open wide to laugh unapologetically and often. The lips on the beautiful mouth that speaks powerful and passionate words. Words that move people, inspire soul growth, that channel the divine. All the Goddess goodness meant to change the world come from those lips and once again I find myself in awe.

Later in the day I was in a trance watching your hips move slowly to your favorite country ballad. Every note perfectly aligned with every the movement of your body.

I can’t help but fall a little more in love with you every time I watch you move into your body. You always remember to check in with her. And I truly believe your hips are directly connected to your heart.

Don’t get me started on your heart. Your heart desires to save the world, love every animal, hug every one of your friends tightly like you mean it, take care of your family and holding space for your partner.

Your heart is a soul reader. Connecting through compassion, empathy, and joy.

Some people are lover or fighters…but BABY your both!

I will get down with the best of them intelligently and your words can sting but you always find a way to ask for forgiveness.

You’re one of the last true romantics. You truly believe everyone deserves and gets a love story AND I love writing ours together.

❤️
ME

P.S. y’all the next round of the relationship roadmap start Saturday! Are you ready to be so in love with yourself that love attracts to you. DM me “self-love” or fill out an application for this program. 🔥

05/28/2022

This is my “why” for working in love and relationships. This is why I’m passionate about communication, compassion and relational awareness. ❤️

I had several people watch this on my story and ask me to make it a post they can share. So I did.

Share + Tag + ❤️

Interested in learning more about what I do? DM “why” and let’s chat.

05/28/2022

I posted this on my story a few days ago and I had several people ask me to make it a post I can share. ❤️

This is my WHY! The reason why I get up everyday and do the work. The reason I love to be in service to communication and relationships. ❤️

05/17/2022

Working on our self-worth is a lifetime journey AND when we are fully embodied in our value, it’s shifts the way we show up in the world.

We make brave decisions around our self-care, our desires, our boundaries.

We become more aligned with our values and take actions to match them.

We become limitless because we believe in everything that is possible for us, love, money, health and wealth.

When we lack self-worth, our shame takes the driver seat and we act out of integrity.

Lack of self-worth reflects in the self-sabotaging stories we tell ourselves that turn into feelings of guilt.

Lack of self worth causes our insecurities to be seen as weaknesses instead of an opportunity for vulnerability.

Are you ready to claim your self-worth? To act from a full body “yes” in your life? And to attract healthy love from this confident space?

Click the link in my profile to apply for The Relationship Roadmap starting in two weeks! Or DM “self-worth” for a complimentary deep dive session. ❤️